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So. . . when I first saw this blog post from LivLuna, I wasn’t sure how to feel about something called “SlutWalk.” 

If I’m being totally honest, I have to admit that I have been known to call a girl or two “sluts”–without really knowing anything about them, other than how they were dressed.  I always knew it was wrong to judge others like that. . . but what can I say?  I’m opinionated. 

But after reading about SlutWalk and watching the video above, I can’t help but reevaluate my use of the words “slut” and “bitch.”  What they’re saying is true.  Using words like that does make it sound like it’s OK to judge women based on what clothes they wear or how much make-up they have on–and gives people a socially accepted way to discriminate and even abuse women. 

In some cases, the way a woman was dressed has even been used as a defense for rape, and THAT is the kind of stereotyping that SlutWalk is trying to fight against.

The New York Post may think that SlutWalks are “feminist folly” and “idiocy,” but as far as I’m concerned, it has really gotten me to reconsider what words like “slut” really mean.  I’m vowing to think a little more before I speak unkindly of others.

 And I plan to attend SlutWalk NYC on August 20, 2011!

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So. . . while I was home visiting my family for Easter, my mom asked me this question:

If you found out that there was a drug you could take that would make you straight, would you take it?

I didn’t even hesitate to tell her “No.”

And she was surprised that I wouldn’t want to be straight if I could be.

Ever since I first realized that I was a lesbian and came out, it’s been such an integral part of my life.  While it’s far from being the only important factor in defining who I am, it is still a major part of who I consider myself to be and how I think about myself.  It has affected the decisions I’ve made, the way I have viewed the world, and the person I have become.   

To put it quite simply. . . I can no longer even imagine life as a straight woman.

I’m sure there are plenty of people who would just love to find a miracle “cure” for “the gay”–probably the same people who send their kids to “ex-gay camps” to turn them straight.   

For the same reason I’d never go to one of those camps or programs, I would never want to take a drug or hormone therapy to change my orientation.  There is nothing wrong with me the way I am, and I am perfectly happy being me. 

Pretty well adjusted for a gay kid, huh? 

“Baby, I was born this way.” —Lady Gaga

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Kobe Bryant of the Los Angeles Lakers NBA team was fined $100,000 yesterday and earned himself condemnation from the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), according to an article in the New York Times.

His crime:  calling a referee a “fucking faggot” after being called on a foul.

In recent years, there have been a growing number of celebrities being called out on these sorts of outbursts, using gay slurs.  Even Perez Hilton, an openly gay blogger, was criticized by the HRC for an anti-gay slur he used in a confrontation with will.i.am of the Black Eyed Peas in 2009.

The excuse used by both Bryant and Hilton was that it was in the heat of the moment–it was just an angry outburst.

But does that excuse this kind of behavior?  Would we excuse Tom Brady if he called someone a “nigger”?  Would Bryant get away with it?  Would another basketball player be allowed to call Yao Ming a “chink”?

In addition to paying the $100,000 fine, Bryant called the HRC to apologize for his actions.  In 2009, Hilton also issued an apology, as did many other celebrities caught using racial or anti-gay slurs in recent years.

People (not only celebrities) need to learn and understand that anti-gay slurs are no more acceptable in a free society than racial slurs or any other kind of slur.  We need to send a message that there is no excuse for using anti-gay slurs–saying “I was just mad” is not a Get-Out-of-Jail-Free card, anymore.

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Imagine that girl (or guy) you can’t stop thinking about:  cute. . . interesting. . . fun to talk to. . . no criminal record to speak of–and to top it all off, you checked her (his) relationship status on facebook and it says “single!”  Could it be any more perfect?

You try to work up your nerve.  You write a text message.  You backspace.  You rewrite it.  You start to press “send.”  Then you delete it again.  You dial their number, then close your phone.  You twist yourself into such a knot over it, and then finally just ask them out, only to hear the fatal words:

“I’m sorry, but I like someone else.  I just wanna see where it goes.”

Oh, sure, they try to make you feel better by saying how cute and sweet you are or how they’re sure you’ll find someone else soon–but we all know that it really doesn’t make you feel any better.  The bottom line is that you just got shot down–again.

“I wanna see where it goes.”  It’s all well and good to wonder where your heart will take you.  Who knows?  It could be great–or maybe that special someone doesn’t even know you exist.

But what about the person who just worked up the nerve to spill their guts?  Maybe they’re not what you had in mind. . . but at least you know they’re interested, right?  Does anyone ever stop to consider what might happen if they just forget about that other girl they’ve been chasing for months and say “yes” to the person who isn’t running away?

It seems like people are always complaining about being single, but if we’re all tired of being single, why do we keep turning each other down?  Are we just too picky?  Or just too wrapped up in our own romantic fantasies?

Please tell me about your experiences!  Ever felt this way?  Who do you think it’s tougher for?  Men or women, gay or straight?  I wanna know your thoughts!  Please comment and/or subscribe!

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