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So. . . when I first saw this blog post from LivLuna, I wasn’t sure how to feel about something called “SlutWalk.” 

If I’m being totally honest, I have to admit that I have been known to call a girl or two “sluts”–without really knowing anything about them, other than how they were dressed.  I always knew it was wrong to judge others like that. . . but what can I say?  I’m opinionated. 

But after reading about SlutWalk and watching the video above, I can’t help but reevaluate my use of the words “slut” and “bitch.”  What they’re saying is true.  Using words like that does make it sound like it’s OK to judge women based on what clothes they wear or how much make-up they have on–and gives people a socially accepted way to discriminate and even abuse women. 

In some cases, the way a woman was dressed has even been used as a defense for rape, and THAT is the kind of stereotyping that SlutWalk is trying to fight against.

The New York Post may think that SlutWalks are “feminist folly” and “idiocy,” but as far as I’m concerned, it has really gotten me to reconsider what words like “slut” really mean.  I’m vowing to think a little more before I speak unkindly of others.

 And I plan to attend SlutWalk NYC on August 20, 2011!

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Kobe Bryant of the Los Angeles Lakers NBA team was fined $100,000 yesterday and earned himself condemnation from the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), according to an article in the New York Times.

His crime:  calling a referee a “fucking faggot” after being called on a foul.

In recent years, there have been a growing number of celebrities being called out on these sorts of outbursts, using gay slurs.  Even Perez Hilton, an openly gay blogger, was criticized by the HRC for an anti-gay slur he used in a confrontation with will.i.am of the Black Eyed Peas in 2009.

The excuse used by both Bryant and Hilton was that it was in the heat of the moment–it was just an angry outburst.

But does that excuse this kind of behavior?  Would we excuse Tom Brady if he called someone a “nigger”?  Would Bryant get away with it?  Would another basketball player be allowed to call Yao Ming a “chink”?

In addition to paying the $100,000 fine, Bryant called the HRC to apologize for his actions.  In 2009, Hilton also issued an apology, as did many other celebrities caught using racial or anti-gay slurs in recent years.

People (not only celebrities) need to learn and understand that anti-gay slurs are no more acceptable in a free society than racial slurs or any other kind of slur.  We need to send a message that there is no excuse for using anti-gay slurs–saying “I was just mad” is not a Get-Out-of-Jail-Free card, anymore.

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Ever heard one of these:

  • “He’s gay, right?”
  • “She looks like a dyke!”

Or my personal favorite. . .

  • “Is that a guy or a girl?”

Or. . .

  • “You can’t be a lesbian!  You don’t play softball!”

Maybe that last one sounds a little strange, but it’s the first thing my mom said when I told her I was batting for the other team.

My grandmother was struck by the fear that I would suddenly become a totally different person.  She was quite sure I would buzz my long hair, burn all of my bras, and trade my high-heels  and miniskirts in for work boots and flannel.

Now, it’s almost five years later, and I’m more girly than ever– “except for that whole liking girls thing,” as my mom would say.

Even now, I find that people just assume I’m straight.  People I’ve gone to college with for four years still go wide-eyed and say, “I didn’t know you were gay!”

People have preconceived notions of what they think it means to be gay, straight, lesbian, or transgendered.  The list of stereotypes goes on and on, but the fact is, most people just can’t be categorized like that.  Liking musical theatre doesn’t make a man gay, anymore than being black makes a man a thug–although I guess my one lonely pair of big baggy jeans does make me a little dykey.

What are some of your “favorite” stereotypes?  Funny ones or offensive ones?  Ones that just plain don’t make sense?  I wanna hear about it!  Please comment or subscribe!

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